Hello, I have a 3 year old little girl.. I have raised her alone for all her life, the father has not been involved. He paid child support for 2 years but didn't want to be apart of her life, in January of 2012 he wanted to try to see her, so he came to get her twice and then told me he did not want to see her anymore, and i told him i didn't want child support anymore. We wrote an agreement between eachother that he did not want to be apart of her life ever and that he wouldn't be paying... He recently has been forced by the government to pay child support and now I am afraid he will go for visitation to my daughter in spite of course because he is mad...I am really scared and want to know the likes of him seeing her? She doesn't know who he is and always says she has no daddy. Would the court even give him visitation? Please help me. I have an appointment to serve him with a parenting order but it's not till march. I need some peace of mind, He is a stranger to her.
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I wish to inform you that parental rights can only be determined by an order of the court. An agreement between you and the father without approval of the court cannot be enforced. Further, in deciding custody and visitation the court always considers the best interests of the child. Generally, the court wants the child to grow up under the love and care of both the parents. You may file a petition for sole child custody in the family court of your county and inform all the facts to the court about the agreement between you and the father of the child and the fact that the child feels she has no daddy. You may provide evidence from persons that support your viewpoint before the court. The court will consider all the facts and decide the matter.
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Originally posted by calgarymom View PostHello, I have a 3 year old little girl.. I have raised her alone for all her life, the father has not been involved. He paid child support for 2 years but didn't want to be apart of her life, in January of 2012 he wanted to try to see her, so he came to get her twice and then told me he did not want to see her anymore, and i told him i didn't want child support anymore. We wrote an agreement between eachother that he did not want to be apart of her life ever and that he wouldn't be paying... He recently has been forced by the government to pay child support and now I am afraid he will go for visitation to my daughter in spite of course because he is mad...I am really scared and want to know the likes of him seeing her? She doesn't know who he is and always says she has no daddy. Would the court even give him visitation? Please help me. I have an appointment to serve him with a parenting order but it's not till march. I need some peace of mind, He is a stranger to her.
As for visitation, sure - there is always a possibility that the courts will grant him visitation. If she doesn't know who he is, that's not entirely HIS fault. It's also YOUR fault that you haven't bothered to tell her. If he petitions the court for visitation, he's likely to get something if the judge feels it is in the child's best interest to do so. Whether or not he chooses to exercise that visitation and establish/maintain a relationship with the child is up to him - if the court orders it, you would be mandated to comply or face the consequences for refusing.
If the court does choose to issue a visitation order with the father, I would suggest that you engage a counselor to assist you and your child through the re-introduction process."If it ain't in writing, it never happened."
"A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part."
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Craptastic parenting on both of your parts. Your child has a right to be supported by both parents. Your child has a right to both parents. It is a child, not a possession.Due to a recent promotion, I should now be referred to as Major Obvious.
I would not be trying to provide information and knowledge if I did not sympathize.
Some days it is just not worth chewing through the restraints to face life.
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For 2 years I asked him weekly to see her, I never once denied him access to his daughter. He just didn't want it. And I have told her about her dad and shown her pictures and she tells everyone she has no daddy and asks why other kids have daddys and she doesn't. It's been a constant fight for me to get him to see her. and I gave up asking him. He turned his back on her, so I don't see what right he has to see her?
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This not about what you want or what he wants. It is about the child you created together and her rights.Due to a recent promotion, I should now be referred to as Major Obvious.
I would not be trying to provide information and knowledge if I did not sympathize.
Some days it is just not worth chewing through the restraints to face life.
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Originally posted by Disagreeable View PostThis not about what you want or what he wants. It is about the child you created together and her rights.
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Originally posted by calgarymom View PostFor 2 years I asked him weekly to see her, I never once denied him access to his daughter. He just didn't want it. And I have told her about her dad and shown her pictures and she tells everyone she has no daddy and asks why other kids have daddys and she doesn't. It's been a constant fight for me to get him to see her. and I gave up asking him. He turned his back on her, so I don't see what right he has to see her?
If he's going to file for visitation rights, let him. Make your arguments to the judge, and the courts will make the determination about whether or not to preserve that right."If it ain't in writing, it never happened."
"A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part."
"You can never make the same mistake twice, because the second time you make it, it's not a mistake, but a CHOICE."
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Next time I suggest you choose better seed material.Due to a recent promotion, I should now be referred to as Major Obvious.
I would not be trying to provide information and knowledge if I did not sympathize.
Some days it is just not worth chewing through the restraints to face life.
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